Yes I love spending time alone.
No, I am not a loner.
Yes I love being a hermit for at least an hour every single day. I call it my “power hour.” Just me in silence… no TV, no phone, no noise, no interruptions.
No, I haven’t always been like this….
There was a time in my life where the “alone” time I spent was shared with the television. My “quiet” time constantly interrupted by my addictive need to check my phone once every 30 minutes. My silence was filled by music or some other form of background noise.
When things quieted down, I constantly got bored, I needed to do something ALL the time. I was restless. I needed people to hang out with to distract me from my own boredom.
Was I afraid of being alone? Maybe…
Was I feeling a decrease of self-worth when I wasn’t busy doing something? Probably…
Was I wrong to believe that solitude was a waste of time? Absolutely…
My views have drastically changed as I spent more time alone with my thoughts. It was through solitude that I was able to find an inner peace and gratefulness inside of me that I did not know existed. I was in my alone time through much contemplation I was able to lock down my most important personal philosophies that were buried deep under all the superficial distractions that amount to very little in life.
It was after many months of spending various lengths of time alone when I was able to finally understand my own life purpose and create my own mission statement. It was through isolation where I began to cultivate a deep inner confidence that allowed me to face some of my deepest fears.
It took me over 30 years to realize that my clearest, deepest and most creative thoughts occur when I am completely relaxed and most importantly focused without any distractions. Solitude leads to a relaxed and focused mind.
Here are some of things I do during my times of seclusion:
- Innovate new ideas
- Write my blogs
- Do nothing at all
Spending time with just your thoughts is the best way to get to know oneself. It is through this process you will begin to befriend yourself, love yourself, educate yourself, change yourself, strengthen yourself, prepare yourself and make peace with yourself.
I am no longer afraid to spend time alone.... are you?
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